Well, this Friday will start another chapter in my life or better yet, in our lives. I will be leaving to go to the STates to stay for a month and when I return, my kids will be staying there in school. I will be going back and forth every 6 weeks to 2 months. I have to figure out a balance between my life here and my life there. I wish we could figure out a way to teach the kids here and them be happy.
They have been begging to go to the States and stay with my mom for so long and they want to go to school there, not here. They have heard so many horror stories about the schools here. so, after careful consideration I decided that we would try this. If when I go in November, things are not what we planned, I will withdraw the kids and enroll them here some how and supplement their education at home.
We will be sending in the I-130 in October. I hope and pray to God that this is a fast process and we know something at least before the kids start the 2013-14 school year. I know that it will not be as fast as I would like. I would love to be able to go to the States in December with Miguel, but that is wishful thinking. As Miguel said, "Sigue sonando!!"
An attorney told us that in around 9 months we could have his visa, but that was with legal assitance and we don't plan on hiring an attorney until we definitely need one. They are WAY too expensive.
I am dreading this, but what else can I do. I have to keep my marraige going and plus make sure my children have the education they deserve.
I wish the US would hurry up and realize what they are doing to families. Why should we as American citizens have to choose whether to live in the US without our spouse and our childrenw ithout a father or live in another country and our children not have all fo the benefits of living in the States and usually living in danger? That should not be a choice that we have to make. I understand that yes, if you have been in the States illegally, you should pay a fine, but if you are married and in a real relationship, you should be able to get your residency.
Unfortunately, this is happening due to all fo the fake marraiges of the recent past and present. I know of 2 couples who had the nerve to ask me to write an affidavit saying their marraige was real when they just got married so that one of them could get their residency. I refused to write an affidavit. I asked them how they could possibly do soemthing like that when there are so many of us who are in real marraiges and having to live outside the US due to BS like this and how in the hell did they have the nerve to come to me and ask this fabor as they called it. Guess what?!!? One of them did get it, just 2 weeks ago!! They sent me an email that no thanks to me they got their visa. I was so mad.
2 days ago, my cousin posted a very cruel and lying post on FB knowing what we are going through and that many of her friends and mine are in the States illegally.
She posted a saying that talked about how in many other countries people either get killed, tortured, or other bad things for crossing illegally. It went on to say that if you cross illegally in to the States, you get food stamps, medicaid, free housing, drivers license, a good job, a tax free busines for 7 years, and othe rthings too many "benefits: to remember. It went on to say that we all wonder why the States is in debt.
I went off on her. First of all, how dare she when she knows what we and many of our friends are going through. Second of all, I told her that it is all lies and that she needs to educate herself before she post comments or other information as she called it. I posted a link to the penalties of livig in the States illegally. I also, reminded her that before she married this white racist animal she is with, she was with MANY illegal Mexican guys. 3 of whom she had children with. I hope her new racist family realizes that she is a hypocrit who just adjusts her beliefs to the beliefs of who ever she is with. I cannot believe what she did. We used to be friends and she has never been like this since she was 13 years old. she is now 30 and all of sudden turned racist. Is she really that ignorant?
I am just in complete shock over what she said. I could not believe it.
Sunday, August 12, 2012
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
My Life is a Rollercoaster!
My life is constantly changing! It drives me crazy sometimes,
but it was my decision to move to Mexico.
My original plan was to have the kids study virtually
through Connections Academy, but after my orientation yesterday, I saw that
that is not possible. The kids have to meet with their teacher atleast once a
month in person and they have to participate in school activities. All this is
ok when we are all 3 in the states. I can drive them to everything. However,
when the kids are in the States with my mom, there is no way she will drive
them to the school. It is over an hour away. We definitely can’t go to meetings
when we are in Mexico, round trip tickets are just too expensive. Also, even
though it is public school, it is more like homeschool in that the parents have
to be more involved than at a regular public school. I knew this, but I didn’t
think it would be as much. My parents can’t help me with that when the kids are
there and I work a fulltime 50+ hour job a week so, that is next to impossible.
Their education will suffer. I am upset because I wanted them to study with
this school. It sounded like an awesome opportunity.
Ok, on to our change in plans. We discussed our
options yesterday. Option #1: Enroll the kids in school here. Option #2: Move
in with my parents in the States, enroll the kids in school, and me go back and
forth every few months. We are trying to get pregnant so me moving to the
States for the whole school year is out of the question. After reviewing all of
the pros and cons of each option, we decided on Option #2.
I will be leaving on August 17th. The
weekend will be spent school clothes and supply shopping. On August 20th,
I will enroll the kids into school. I will stay until September 15th.
The kids had already planned on going to stay with my parents for 3 months so I
will come back to Mexico until November. I will go back to Georgia in the
middle of November and will stay until the kids get out of school for
Christmas. Then, we will come to Mexico together for Christmas. We will go back
to Georgia around January 7th or 8th. I will comeback to
Mexico for Miguel’s birthday on January 24th. This time, I will stay
in Mexico for a couple of months and go back to Georgia right before Easter. I
will stay in Georgia until the kids get out of school in May and we will return
to Mexico for the summer.
During this time, we will begin the immigration
application process and I hope that by the time we return at the end of the
school year, we know something. Of course, if we get pregnant my schedule will
change a little to accommodate my last months of pregnancy and the birth of the
baby. Which I will not complain at all. We have been planning this baby for
years and have been officially trying
since March and can’t wait for this baby to be in the way. My only sadness will
only be when the baby is born. If Miguel has not got his visa by then, he will
miss the birth. With the kids being in the States, I will have the baby there.
There is no way I will be away from my kids for that long. They are young and
wouldn’t understand that and even though it will be a sad situation for Miguel
and I, but we are old enough to understand and deal with it.
I hope to have his visa application sent in by the end
of this year. That all depends on finances. He hasn’t been working because he
takes care of the kids while work, but
now that the kids will not be here, he will start working. That will be a huge
help financially. We will be able to use that to apply for the visa.
He has a cousin who offered to help us before, but
that was when we were in the States and didn’t think he would get his visa.
Miguel is thinking about talking to him about loaning us the money to apply. We
will see.
The good thing: I will be able to eat a Wendy’s
hamburger and drink an iced coffee from McDonald’s!! Yayyy!!
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