Thursday, December 29, 2011

I am changing my mind... I need to vent.

I am changing my mind about building onto my mother in law's house. I have been here since last Friday and all was good until Miguel went out of town to work. Then, my youngest sister in law started with her attitude and also, my mother in law. Everything that goes wrong in this house seems to be mine or my kid's fault.
On Monday, I went to clean the bathroom, it looked like it hadn't been cleaned in God only knows how long so, I cleaned it. I scrubbed the walls, sink, toilet, and floor. It took a whole bottle of bleach. I opened the door so, I would choke as bad but, my sister in law and her lazy a$$ was laying on the bed and strted complaining about the smell of bleach. So, my mother in law told me to close the door. I continued cleaning it with the door closed and left it very clean. No thank yous or anything, just attitudes. An hour later the floor was filthy and the toilet had pee all over it! I wanted to kill!
The only people who appreciated what I did for them was my father in law and my husband. My mother in law can't clean with bleach, it causes her problems with her breathing but, they're 2 other women living in the house so, there was no excuse. My father in law is never home so, he doesn;t have time to clean it so, the fault lays on my sisters in law.
All was good but, on Tuesday, Miguel went out of town to do a construction job with his brother in law. That day was ok, everybody still treated us fine but, then, on Wednesday, it all changed. They started with their comments and attitudes. They either ignore us or say direct but, indirect comments, and at times direct comments. My nieces and nephews are older and are mean to the kids, when Miguel is here they don't allow it to happen but, when he is not here, I get on to the older ones, they start on my kids blaming everything on them. Today, they have started on the dogs, which are Miguel's babies, they talk about how they don't even want them here and only because of me are they here. They know this is not true that, Miguel insisted on bringing them and Miguel already told them that the dogs come with him and when he is here they act fine with them but, as soon as he leaves it is another story. I have never seen such hypocritic people in my life! Miguel thinks that, it will be better once we have our own space here but, I don't think so, the only thing that will help is that, I can get away from everything but, the attitudes will still be there. Plus, when Miguel is out of town, my mother in law will be the sitter and I will not tolerate someone being mean to my kids or even treating them different in any way! Plus, we are plannig on having a baby next year and I know I will be arguing with everyone on how too take care of my child. They still feed a 4 year old instead of letting him feed hisself for God's sake!!! Plus, they wash dishes in cold water and then blame everyone getting sick from walking on cold floors with no shoes or being outside without a jacket even though it is warm outside. I have told them and told them that, you get sick from germs being passed around from dishes not being cleaned correctly and not from cold floors but, nobody believes me here, and they even say I am stupid for thinking that. So, oh well, let them continue to get sick. The major problem is, they are sick and I have been here all week so, of course, I am sick now, too! I try to wash the dishes in hot water but, they poured out the water I had  heated (they don't have the water heater connected to the kitchen, just the shower)
So, with all these risks, I am seriously thinking about changing my mind but, I am first going to let Miguel talk to them and see if, things change, They should know by now, that, I already have moved us an hour and a half  from here and they know I am the one who convinced Miguel to build on here and I can be the one who takes him even further away and I will do that if it means that we will be happy and they will only see him once every few years, I don't care, my kids and my marraige come first for Miguel and myself.

Sorry for the long complaint, I just had to vent.

My Christmas Tree!

Well, as promised, here is my "tree." 

It's the little white and red thing in the background. In the front, are my awesome models! They have to pose for any picture!

Christmas was different this year, it was my first Christmas in Mexico as well as, my first Christmas away from my family. I was all depressed about this at first but, I made the best of it.

On Friday, we went to my mother in law's. I made a few American sweets with the kids. We made: Rice Krispy Treats, peanut butter balls, and no bake oatmeal cookies. I didn't take pictures, I was so busy making sure the kids followed the recipes. I had Jeni, Luis, and 2 of my nieces so, I was very busy!! It was stressful at moments because, the ingredients are very expensive here and I didn't want to waste it but, we had alot of fun!

On Saturday, my mother in law made tamales that her customers had ordered for Christmas and then we made Discada ( a mixture of steak, pork, hot dogs, and bacon on a special sauce), and frijoles charros ( sister inlaw's way. yuck!) We only ate the discada because, the beans were nasty, I have never heard of putting all of the ingredients into the beans raw but, that was what she did? I don't know, maybe that is just another way to make them. We also, made Vampiros and Micheladas. At midnight, we laid down the baby Jesus. They prayed the Rosary and did the cantos. After all of the prayers were done, the passed the Jesus'around for the kisses and then laid them down. They then passed candy around.

Afterward, the kids went outside to break the pinata so, that Santa could come and leave the presents.
After all of the candy was picked up, the kids went in to open presents! The older girls went in first and yelled, "Santa came Santa came!!"

The one who cried because she got a cell phone!!! My niece

The happiest day of his life! Not only did he get a skateboard after, I told him, I would never get him one but, he got a Waveboard!!! It is way better than just a plain skateboard. He was so happy, he kissed all over it! One problem, he can't even ride a regular skateboard, yet!

Jeni opening her favorite gift ever, Mi Diario Secreto or My Secret Diary. She has been begging for this for 2 years! As soon as, she ripped the paper and saw the box she got so excited!!  She was so happy and writes in it all the time!

Afterwards, the kids went to play with their gifts and the adults played! We sung Karaoke and danced.

Well, they sung Karaoke and I watched!

And some danced.

So, all in all, it was a fun Christmas! Thank God, I was kind of worried. I hope everyone enjoyed their Christmas!

Monday, December 19, 2011

We now have a "tree"!!!

Well, I just could not go Christmas without a tree in my house! I used the lid to the Mexican style washers, (the round ones that don't have spin), rope, and plastic wrapping to create a "tree".  It is small but, in the shape of a tree. I put gold netting around it with ribbon and lights. Though, we know it is not a tree, it looks sort of like one and it helps to add some Christmas cheer to the house.

I am starting to get more into the Christmas feeling. Yesterday, we took the kids to see Opercaion Regalo. One of the theaters here has a special package with the ticket, popcorn, and soda for 39 pesos. We each got that package plus a hot dog for 13 pesos each!!! It was an awesome deal and we had fun, the movie was pretty interesting! The only downside was, the theater had no heat!!! It was 11 degrees celsius outside and wet and they had no heat!!! So, I froze the whole time but, that was ok.

We are officially 5 days from the 24th and nobody has decided what we are doing for Christmas!!! Itr is supposed to be 2 of my sisters in law's responsibility but, one of them, the one who is living off of my mother in law and has more money than all of us put together has not participated in any of the festivities up until now. yesterday, Ii asked her iof they have a plan yet but, she said no, that we should all just bring food and leave it at that. I like the idea of eaverybody taking a dish but, they need to figure this out. At the rate they are going, Saturday is going to arrive and no plans for food. This is really not good, it is the first Christmas in 6 years that all of the family is together and theses people can't get their sh*t together. I will be taking some desserts and maybe something else but, it will all be what my family tradtionally has at Christmas.

Oh yeah! I got my first Christmas present for the year, this weekend!! I got a new phone!!! Yayyyy!! It is the phone that, I have been wanting for about 2 months now and like the phone I have wanted for the past 2 years but, better. It is the Samsung version of the Blackberry but, way better. I personally don't like the blackberry but, love this system. It can download and open word, excel, publisher, etc documents and has a qwerty keyboard and touch screen! I love this phone, it is awesome! I love my husband for giving it to me!!!! just another reason to love him more!!!!
This will be my last post before Christmas so, everybody have a wonderful Christmas!!! If I have time between Christmas and New Year's , I will post how our Christmas went.

Merry Christmas!!!!

Thursday, December 15, 2011

A very depressing Christmas this year ;( ....

Normally, Christmas is my absolute favorite time of the year. This year, however, it is very depressing. I am 33 years old, mmm did I say that?, anyway, I am 33 years old and have never spent Christmas away from my family. I know our traditions as they are the same each and every year.

Difference #1: This year, I am in a new country with new customs and traditions. I haven't bought a tree, yet. I have had to choose between a tree or gifts for my kids. I chose gifts because, we will be spending from the 23 until the 26 with my in laws so, no gifts will be under a tree at my house. I gave my kids the choice of an extra gift or a tree and they chose the gift. In the US, I have a tree and lots of decorations but, they are 24 hours away so, no good to me right now. I am missing all of my Nativity, my Santas, snowmen, and candles!

Difference #2: Normally, I buy lots of gifts for my kids, they usuually get anywhere from 15 to 20 gifts just from us, this includes, toys, clothing, and shoes. This year, we have bought only 3 gifts plus 1 outfit and a pair of shoes. It took a whole check just to buy this. This is the part that will teach the kids the real reason of Christmas.

Difference #3: I don't even know what the hell we will be having for Christmas dinner because, my sisters in law have decided that, the 2  of them that have a Baby Jesus will be the ones to provide the food and the madrinas will provide candy and a new outfit for Baby Jesus. I am lost. I know, I definitely will be making a few desserts and candy to take to the dinner (if I can find the ingredients). This will teach them how to involve Jesus more in the celebration.

Differences 2 and 3 are just small problems, I know but, they add to the bigger problems like, not being with my family and not having a tree. I feel like Scrooge this year and I HATE it.

I have made a makeshift tree with a hula hoop, rope, fabric, ribbons, and lights and have put up a few decorations so, my house looks a little like Christmas but, it is just not the same but, I really think it is because, I am not with my family and I never thought that would bother me that much!

I am complaining and I apologize! Merry Chritmas to everybody!!

One thing, I am looking forward to, is New Year's. I never spend it with my family, I usually go out with Miguel or stay at home with the kids but, this year, we will be partying with Miguel's family and the sisters are party animals!!! We are planning on buying a small pig, killing it, and cooking it. I can't wait for the fresh Chicharrones!!!!! This is the plan as of now but, if Miguel's control freak sister gets involved, it may change. I hope she keeps her nose out of it! I am also, looking forward to some drinks, I haven't had a drink since we got married last year!!!

Friday, December 9, 2011

Lisa's "Here We Go Again" Questions ;)

I just love theses questionaires, I am going to have to come up with one for everybody but, that will be one day when I have free time. Without further adue, here are my answers:

1. If you could picture you life two years from now what would you like to see?

      I hope to be Mom to one more baby, a little Miguel. Own our own house, have Miguel's Visa so, we can make the choice to go or not and not the US government. Plus, I hope to be running my own English School here in Monterrey.

2. What is the worst habit you feel you have?

        I am very picky about everything and I things have to go my way or no way. This is something I fight with everydaybeing married, a mom, and living in Mexico. Here everything is different and it is hard for stuff to go my way, I have to really work for it!

3. What is your favorite genre of movies?

        Drama, Suspense, I love to get lost in crime movies. I also, have moments when I desperately need a comedy to laugh and forget my problems.

4. What are five thing you would include in your to- do list?

        Travel to Italy        
        Have more kid(s)
        Buy or build our own house
        Start our own business

5. Are you still in contact with any childhood friends?

I am still in contact with one friend from high school, she was the one I always got in trouble with when I was 15 and 16! We lost touch about 7 years ago but, thanks to Facebook, we are now in contact again.     

6. Do you get along well with family members and relatives?

       I get along pretty good with my family, They are kind of odd people and can be very judgemental but, after giving their unrequested opinions or comments, they are pretty supportive.    

7. If you were to win 10 million what would you do with the money?

      I would build a house here in Monterrey, in the town Miguel is from, and one in GA.
      I would start my English school now, instead of later.
      I would go to Italy.
      I would give our families money and put money away for the kids to go to school.

8. Have you ever been in a physical fight? Any details?
     I can honestly say, I have never been in a fight unless you consider smacking Miguel a couple of times when we first started dating for stupid stuff he did then!   

9. Three things you could not live without?

      My kids
      My family
      My computer

10.  Have you ever met a celebrity if not who would you chose to meet?
      I have never met any but, I would prefer to meet Tony Hawk with my son, Justin Bieber with my daughter, and Vin Diesel all by myself ;)!!!!

11. Do you have any tattoos or piercings?

    I do not have any tatoos or piercings other than my ears. I have always wanted a tatoo but, have been scared to get it. I have a very low pain tolerance when it omes to needles. My cousin has a tatoo of a rose on the inside of her ear! It is cute but, I know it had to of hurt!

Well, that's it! Everyone have a good weekend!!!

Thursday, December 8, 2011

They caught him!!! Rapist and Murderer of 7 year old, Jorelys Rivera In Jail!!!!

       Wednesday afternoon, Cherokee County Sheriff, Canton Police, and the GBI made the arrest of Ryan Brunn, a 20 year old maintenence worker at the apartment complex where little Jorelys Rivera lived and was kidnapped, raped, and murdered. This animal had begun working at the complex only a month ago and had passed all background tests, he had no previous charges. The eveidence showed that he planned this horrendous crime, he took this baby to a vacant apartment, raped her, stabbed, her and beat her. She didn't die from the stab wounds, she did from blunt force trauma to the head. She was dead within and hour and a half after she went missing.
        The District Attorney is not sure if they will seek the death penalty. In my opinion, this animal deserves none less. Plus, they should put him in general population so, that what is done to child abusers can be done to him but, only worse because, not only is he a child abuser, he is a child rapist and murderer. The GBI said,
        I have to say, Great Job to all the police who, were involved in the arrest of this animal. I take back all of the things I said about Canton Police because, yes they have a bad reputation for racism but, this time they forgot about it and put all effort into finding the animal who did this.
        This case affected me so much because, I have friends and family who live in this area, and a couple of friends live in this complex. not only was this a horrendous crime that happened to a little girl who did not deserve this but, I think, it could have been one of the little girls that I know and love dearly.
        Please keep this little girl and her case in your prayers that, this animal gets everything he deserves and much more. And that Jorelys rests in peace, which she can now do, since, he will pay for what he did to her.

Rest In Peace Jorelys Rivera

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Wow! It has been forever since I posted! Plans for Christmas and first 3 months of 2012 enclosed...

Thanksgiving was depressing, I had to wórk and couldn't afford a turkey, they were about 400 pesos each so, no turkey for me this year! :( I am missing my family as this is my very first year not spening Thanksgiving or Christmas with my family.
I hope to be able to spend atleast Thanksgiving next year with my family.

As for Christmas, I have yet to get a tree. The last time I went to GA, I could have and should have brought my tree and decorations back with me but, it was July and Christmas was not on my mind so, I forgot it. Now, I regret it! I am broke, being an English teacher in December is not good. I am only working about 15 hours a week and have to buy gifts for the kids, tree, decorations, plus go in with Miguel's family for Christmas and New Years Dinner. I am thinking about getting a small tree for the kids to decorate since we will be at my mother in laws from the 24th early until the 26th so, all gifts will be there. But, I don't want the kids to miss out on our tree decorating tradition.

Each year, we make a special dinner and dessert and have hot chocolate while decorating the tree and I will not let this year be different, they look forward to this each year. we would have normally done this last weekend but, it has to wait until this weekend.

My in laws will be laying the Baby Jesus on Christmas, this will be the first time see this so, I am interested in learning about this a little beforehand. They tried to explain it but, just confused theirselves! Odd! After the Baby Jesus, we will put the kids to bed and then they will wake them up at 3AM (I don't know how that will work with my 2, they LOVE their sleep and don't wake up early even on Christmas morning!) to open gifts. After that, they will go back to bed and the next day, they can play with all gifts.

On the good side, we bought the kids gifts well, what we will be getting them this year, about half of what we normally get.

We bought the twisting skateboard, Manchester soccer ball, and mini skateboard set for our son, mi diario secreto (My Secret Diary), Twister, and a small Furreal pet for our daughter. I do plan on having stockings with all the stuffings like, small toys, acsessories, candy, and other stuff that fits. We plan on buying something for my mother in law and fatehr in law but, I am not sure. We will be getting the kids a new outfit for Christmas this weekend and that will be it for Christmas.

For New Year's, we will be roasting a pig and partying the night away, I can't wait for that!!! It has been so long since I have partied for real and I used to go out for Ne Year's but, for the past 2 years, we haven't. Miguel's sisters are party animals so, we will be having good food, drinks, and dancing!!! FUN!!!

In January, we have a thousand birthdays, well, not a thousand but, alot! For one, my daughter will be turning 10, double digits! And since she will be 10 and will be having her quince in 5 years, this will be her last real party until the quince. We are planning, a clown show, inflatable or trampoline, pinatas, great food, and cake. After this party, she will have a special dinner and cake for each bisthday until the quince.
The day after her birthday, our niece turns 2 and 2 days later, our other niece turns 2 and it is my mother in law's birthday , also. Then, 1 week later, Miguel will turn 25, finally!!! So, we have a very busy January.

I will be having my tubal reversal the first week of February. So, we will start trying to get pregnant in May!! Yayyyyy!! It is about time, we have been planning this for 3 years!

We will begin construction at my mother in law's the beginning of February. Our plan is to build our room and bathroom, first. So, we can move out of this money guzzler (rented house) by the end of February so, only 2 more rent payments!!! Yayyyyy!!! And after that we have a construction schedule to finish the house by the end of the year. We will be doing a total remodel downstairs and adding on 4 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms upstairs.

At the beginning of March, I will be going to the US to take the kids for a few months. They want to spend a few months out of each year with my family there and since, they are homeschooling, they can do it. I plan on going to get them at the latest August. They want to stay until Thanksgiving of next year and my family wanted until January 2013! but, I don't think so, that is way too long. I decided to compromise with them and my family and decided August is the latest. If I get pregnant quickly, I will go get them when I am 3 months, before I am too pregnant and after the first critical 12 weeks.

On a sad note, I am from Canton, Georgia so, I still get news from there on my homepage. Well, Friday, a 7 year old little girl was taken from an apartment complex in Canton. After the police and volunteers had been searching for her all weekend, they found her body in a trash can in the complex. She had been sexually assaulted and beaten to death. I feel that the police could have done more and if, as they say, they were there since Friday when she was taken, why did they not see who put here body in this trash can? They are investigating this and had offered a $5000 (as of last night) reward to information leading to the capture of the sick bastard who did this. I feel that the reward should be better, I know first hand that Canton Police have a long record of discrimination against the Hispanic population (the child was Hispanic) and feel that more could have been done and that a better reward should be offered this was a 7 year old little girl, she did not deserve to die like that and I think that everyone in the community should get ivolved to find this animal even if it means donating money to the reward fund.
May this little girl rest in peace.
Here is the link to the news story: News story